All in my Family
Cast｜Hao Wu’s family
All in My Family is an American short documentary film directed by Hao Wu. The film follows a traditional family where the son is a gay Chinese man who has chosen to have children via surrogates.
Hao Wu is a Chinese-American film director, producer and writer. Wu was also a blogger known as Tian Yi. He is best known for his feature-length documentary, People’s Republic of Desire, winner of the Grand Jury Award for Best Documentary Feature at the 2018 South by Southwest, and All in My Family, a Netflix Original Documentary.
All in My Family could be viewed, in spirit, as my homage to Ang Lee’s The Wedding Banquet. In that film, a traditional Taiwanese family must deal with the fact that their son living in New York is gay. When the film came out in 1993, it was a watershed moment for me. It gave me hope that we, Asian queer immigrants in the US, are not invisible, and that happiness, even after all the compromises one might have to make, is possible.
Now that I have gone through my own battles with coming out and building a ”modern” family of my own, I would like to continue the conversation about what family is, how they continue to shape us, and how they have survived all the stories we tell each other, truths and lies. I would like to relay the hope to the younger generation, queer or otherwise marginalized, that it is indeed possible to build a family where we feel grounded, feel at home.