《奇缘一生》Our Marriages: When Lesbians Marry Gay Men

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《奇缘一生》

Our Marriages: When Lesbians Marry Gay Men

2012 | 82 min | 何小培He Xiaopei, 袁园 Yuan Yuan

 

纪录长片 Feature Documentary

 

编剧 Screenwriter

何小培He Xiaopei, 袁园 Yuan Yuan

 

主演 Cast

小熊 Xiao Xiong, 静静 Jing Jing, 可乐 Ke Le, 姗姗 Shan Shan

 

摄影 Cinematographers

袁园Yuan Yuan,何小培 He Xiaopei

 

对白语言 Language

中文 Chinese

 

字幕 Subtitles

中英 Chinese, English

 

制作机构Production Group

粉色空间 Pink Space

故事梗概Synopsis

 

同性恋在不同的文化背景下,有着不同的生活方式。在中国,由于家庭与社会传统有着很强婚姻的压力,许多女男同性恋者采取了非同寻常的形式婚姻的方式来化解压力。她们共同协商,达成详细的婚姻协议,举办婚礼,在外界的眼里他们似乎过着与异性恋一样的生活。

 

女同性恋者是怎样协商以实现自已即要作女同性恋者,又要作孝女的双重身份?形式婚姻是如何运作的?双方又是怎样把婚姻的责任、义务分配和担当起来的?‘奇缘一生’在两年的时间里,跟随四位住在东北沈阳的女同性恋者,参与她们的协商、参加她们的婚礼,纪录下她们的生活与问题。电影对中国现代社会的婚姻制度和异性恋生活方式提出了重要的问题和反思。

 

Same-sex love takes different forms in different cultures and times. In China, as the pressure to marry continues to be a central component of traditional family culture, some lesbians and gay men have adopted an unusual arrangement to alleviate this burden. A number of mutually consenting lesbians and gay men have entered into agreements that allow them to adopt a form of contract marriage with detailed terms and conditions of marriage and married life. They then hold weddings for the sake of their families and proceed to live as “normal” heterosexual couples.

 

How do lesbians negotiate their lives as both lesbians and filial daughters? How are these contract marriages arranged? And how does a contract couple navigate the complicated duties and obligations of married life?  Our Marriages: Lesbians Marry Gay Men follows the negotiations, weddings, and lives of four lesbians for two years in a large city in northeast China, documenting their strategies and the issues they face. The film raises important questions and reflections about the institution of marriage as well as lesbian and gay life in contemporary Chinese society.

 

导演简历Bio-Filmography of Directors

 

何小培

青少年时在松山龙庆峡当羊倌,踏遍青山绿水。大学毕业后参加中国登山队,冲击南迦巴瓦峰。南峰失败后入驻中南海,做公务员十四年,研究经济改革。世界妇女大会前后,投身女权和同志运动。后赴英国攻读硕士、博士,专业:文化研究。回国后创建民间组织——粉色空间,倡导性权利,利用影像表达被压制的欲望和声音。

 

He Xiaopei

Living in the mountains as a teenager trained me to be a professional shepherd, and the Himalayas turned me into a full time mountaineer. A government job made me an economist while the women’s movement and immersion in gender studies converted me to become a feminist. Participating in LBGTQ organizing in China helped me to realize there are many people—especially people with disabilities, HIV-positive women, bisexual women, and sex workers—who are oppressed because of their gender and sexuality. This is why I set up the Pink Space Sexuality Research Centre and continue to promote sexual rights, including sexual pleasure, among people who are oppressed.

 

袁园

毕业于北京电影学院图片摄影专业,独立纪录片导演,从2004年开始参与非政府机构与影像有关的项目,并参与创办倡导性少数权利的NGO粉色空间(2007),创作和策划了一系列的摄影作品,包括《北京前门同性伴侣结婚行为摄影》(2009),平遥国际摄影大展《山女晋娃农村感染艾滋病妇女和儿童作品联展》(2011),《At This Moment, I Want to Be》(2013)获得荷兰“国际骄傲摄影奖”的特别奖。从2008年开始独立纪录片的创作,主要作品有《宠儿》,26分钟;《奇缘一生》,81分钟。

 

Yuan Yuan

Yuan Yuan is an independent documentary filmmaker who graduated from the Beijing Film Academy. A founding member of Pink Space Sexuality Research Centre, her works include Same-Sex Couples Take Wedding Photos at Qianmen (2009), a photo exhibition of rural HIV-positive women and children at the Pingyao International Photography Festival (2011), At This Moment, I Want to Be (2013; Special Mention at the 2013 Pride Photo Award), and the films The Lucky One and Our Marriages:When Lesbians Marry Gay Men.

 

导演阐述Directors’ Statement

 

形式婚姻遭遇了很多歧视与偏见。有的说她们是同性恋就应该出柜好好当同性恋,有的说她们不该‘欺骗’父母亲;还有的说她们是向父权制的婚姻霸权屈服。而很少有当事人对形婚讲述她们的经历、态度、做法和背后的故事。我们跟随了四位女同性恋者两年的时间,听她们对形婚的看法、看她们形婚的做法,纪录她们普通的生活和特别的婚礼,理解其中的简单和深奥的道理。由于社会家庭传统观念而产生。

 

There is a lot of discrimination against people who enter into contract marriages. Some say that women who are lesbians should come out as lesbian; some say they should not “deceive” their parents; others say having a contract marriage is surrendering to patriarchal institutions. But what do people who actually have contract marriages say? We need to hear people who are in contract marriages tell their own stories. We need to hear from them about their experiences and their family backgrounds. We followed four lesbians for two years, heard their stories, and recorded their ordinary lives and extraordinary weddings in order to understand the simple but profound reasons for contract marriages.

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